Originally Posted by
FionnaPerSe 
Yes, but how do you deal with when they contact you? I cant just shut him off if he asks me something or asks me how i was!? Or can I?
I keep struggling with that one
how i dealt with it was making a decision on what was more important- me and my mental state or her and her chaos and drama. that meant even if a call was only to see how i was, it wasnt allowed.
my decision was MY mental state was more important than her chaos and drama so no contact PERIOD.
theres only 2 choices- do or dont. not making a choice is making the choice to allow the crap to continue.