Originally Posted by
Kelly34 
Thankyou, it's so hard, I feel like I know 2 different people when it comes to him. I feel like I'm hanging on to the man I married in hope he will suddenly wake up, but it is definitely ruining me aswel. I'm lost as to hold on or let go.
I think it's best to let go, even if you have to pry yourself off. The advantages are:
You gain little by clinging.
You don't humiliate yourself.
You don't waste time on him.
You end up feeling better about yourself, and if you can actually wish him well with true sincerity, you will feel even better about yourself.
There's a slightly better chance that he may come back if you let him go. Not a good chance, but slightly better.
Letting him go is a low risk position. You're going to lose him anyway. Don't add playing the fool to your troubles.
Is this the best way to handle it? Darned if I know, but it's how I do it, and it seems to work OK.