I'm sorry that your divorce had to become final, and he only showed how bad off he is. I have a similar timeline wherein my AH went to inpatient and came back only going off the rails worse, and blaming me for his drinking. And agreed about the comment he made about him needing his kids, but not saying his kids need HIM. Just document what you can, and if he sent you any texts about the "not wanting to wake up" stuff, that may be important later (in combination with the fact he does not keep his medications on point).