Originally Posted by
trailmix 
Third, you may want to start journaling these incidents, for you, not for him. You have posted:
Journaling has helped me see a lot of truth this past year. I made charts/grids that listed things I wanted to track. I included positive things like exercise and spending time with friends. I also included worrisome things about my husband like: drank, talked to me, talked to DH, helped cook dinner, had a tantrum, etc. I just filled in spaces if the thing occurred and left it blank if it did not. sometimes I would write a sentence or two (got the idea for Bullet Journaling).
I found out that I'm decent in self-care but get little help around the house in general. I also saw (surprise, surprise) a huge correlation between his drinking and his ignoring us or starting fights - mostly ignoring. It makes it easier for me to see that I'm not crazy or petty and that my experiences are real.