Harry-What Carl said. However, I want to caution you to something I'm going through now that I'm just starting to figure out. I know you hear this all the time "you have to do it for yourself" I've been married for 36 years. Once I got started on this site and trying to quit, I realized that I was doing it more for my wife than me. The things she must have put up with for most of that time had me feeling very guilty. I never wanted her to see me like that again. And it had been working pretty well until recently when I would travel without her or she would travel without me. What was going to stop me if she wasn't there to see it. That's what got me this last weekend. Your story helped me finally realize what was going on and it's something I'm ready to put a lot of thought into. I really do hope you take the right steps now and everything works out with your wife.