Sheepherder...….you ask what he was "upset about"...and said you were like his mother....
Two of the biggest defenses that alcoholics use to protect themselves and their drinking are-----Denial and Projection....
If they can take the spotlight off of them selves and put on someone else...that switches the focus off of themselves. Seems like he was doing a major refocusing of the spotlight onto you, tonight.
Plus, he knows that calling you his mother would be like a knife in your side.....
And, it worked.
When they are spouting garbage like that...around here, we have a word for it...called "quacking".....Picture a little duck just quacking it's head off!!
All sound and fury and signifying, basically nothing (of value)…..
In the face of quacking...the less reacting, the better....so, you did good in that respect, I think....
Still, you are left in tears.....
If a person is in an environment that is harmful to their self...it is better to remove one's self from that harm...than to attempt to adjust to the harm within the environment.....