We can take it as a given that anyone posting on this thread wishes the best for Tatsy. All we can do is try to say what has helped us, within the constraints of the forum, and hope that at least some of it helps. For me, anyway, it's never just one thing I read or hear that suddenly sorts a problem out, it's always a number of things over time that I think about and come to my own understanding of them. The beauty of this forum is that, while we probably all wish we could say that one thing that would really help Tatsy, it's more likely that it's the sharing of a variety of personal experiences that, hopefully, makes a difference. And because a lot of different perspectives have been put forward in this thread I wouldn't be surprised if Tatsy feels the need for some time out now and again while she accommodates all the input. The important thing is that she keeps coming back.