Non-alcoholics don't get it. Period.
Plenty of alcoholics don't "get it" according to what WE want them to get.
It's completely beside the point. Find people who do support - NOTE: not endorse- your progress. And see if you have what they want.
For me, you better be able to listen when I say things like "why did you drink?" "no is a complete sentence" "there is no such thing as a slip" "trigger is a BS word" "what do YOU think made you choose to drink - more importantly, what are you going to do now?" And one of my ultimates: this will kill you if you don't stop.