Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
I get this but I also had to change the way I approached Trust - I had to realize that trust really isn't about the other person, it's about trusting myself to read the situation properly & make the right decisions for myself, regardless of other people's behavior or decisions. Trust is a huge, complicated issue for me in recovery. (maybe others have an easier approach)
I think this is spot on FS, about trusting yourself and that it's complicated.
The first is imperative (and we are not always up to the task with perspective and that's where our trusted friends and family come in to it). But I think there is reliance on your partner.
If that person cannot be relied on (which can be referred to and actually is trust) - then what the heck. If you can't even rely on the person you have chosen to marry/be in a relationship with to have your back (whether that be emotional support, bringing up children or making sure there is milk in the fridge) then what is the point of having a relationship with them at all?
Not making a statement here btw lol - just throwing that out there.