Hello Bob!
This is a place of great support, I am glad you are here!
I am glad things have gotten better in your household. In my opinion, trust is earned over time. A very long time. There is no magic answer. If she is trustworthy and working her recovery, that will shine though. If not, that will show as well.
As far as resentments, I had counseling that helped me, as well as time. I am a big believer that time heals a lot of things, and those that hurt you should realize that you will require that. If not, then they are really not understanding how you were affected.
Keep sharing, you are not alone! Welcome back!