He would not agree to a UA, he would not agree to a breathalyzer. I’m stuck.
you are not stuck. if he refuses to prove he is sober - which shouldn't be a problem if one IS sober - in order to have time with his CHILD, then play hardball. full custody, no visitation. unless he agrees to soberlink or some other such sober-proving device. don't WAIT until something bad happens to your child. be proactive.