Hi Daisy - chiming in that it takes time - and sorting out what was real (in my head v not!) def took a good bit of time. I recall the 100 day mark being a good shift forward in many areas. It keeps getting clearer and we can make ever better decisions.
How long have you been sober? Are you working any kind of program?
I'd add, gently, that we can only make our choices, not others. It's hard but focusing on a SO or anyone else is not good for using our energy.