I can remember as a very young kid being puzzled why my A dad seemed so childish and weak.
It puzzled me why this adult was so immature. Even as a young kid I was able to identify his behaviour issues.
Alkies seem to think kids don't notice their behaviours. They do. Most certainly,
When I was 12, A dad left home and left myself and my sibs with a physically violent, verbally abusive, raging, untreated Al-anon mum. He played the victim telling us kids how dreadful mum was to him. Conveniently overlooking he was leaving us there with her.
Reality being that he was clearing off to shack up with one of his many affair ladies.