Alcoholism is a disease that affects the whole family.
Education, open minds and changed actions can create huge changes. Alateen is important. So is Al-Anon, Celebrate Recovery, addiction specialists, etc.
The problem isn't if the music is beautiful or squeaky. It's not how the schedules are between you, kids and the alcoholic.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
trailmix, I'm sorry that happened.
This is a completely counterintuitive disease to deal with. Healing, recovery and better days are possible. One day at a time.