Originally Posted by
Hawkeye13 
My dad had very little to do with me even though he had visitation opportunities.
We were distant and polite, but really had no meaningful relationship to speak of.
That was the choice he made. Kids know when adults aren't really mentally / emotionally present.
Older child has been whispering to me tonight "he's just so angry". He's getting quite defiant and telling AH he needs to chill out and meditate!! He's nearly 15 and there's no hiding anything from him. And he is adult sized so there's no pushing him around.