Originally Posted by
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Welcome to the family.
I would let the relationship go until he's got significant sober time. Abuse is never ok and he's not treating you like he loves you. He's right about one thing tho - the problem is with him, not you.
I'd let him have his space and recover (or not) on his own.
Yes, this^^^^^.
I put so many women through hell. The smart ones left. I’m in early recovery and still not worthy of a woman’s love. I have a lot of work to do.
So so does he. I hate to say it but your relationship sounds just like so many of mine, codependent and enabling. Be careful and be strong.