My sister claimed that she didn't have enough money to find a place big enough for her children to live with her. And then she got plastic surgery. All I'll say is that it sure as hell wasn't just a bunch of Botox injections.
It's such a tight spot, because we all want her kids to know so badly that they are valued, despite their mom's actions, WITHOUT disparaging their mom's actions. I think they've learned to accept her for who she is, without having any expectations that she'll let go of the many delusions that she uses to define herself. I frankly could learn a lesson from them.