Hi misfitlife!
Welcome!
Have you been to any AlAnon meetings?
Here's the link to help locate them - and under the "Meetings" tab there is a selection for "Electronic Meetings" so maybe look there if online or phone meetings work best for you. And yes, as you get familiar with the steps in AlAnon you can find a sponsor at whatever meeting you've chosen to help you work those steps.
https://al-anon.org
Here on SR we meet at all times of day on this forum and at all hours and post threads on any topic, fear, situation, or tell our story, and our members respond/share their own experiences as it relates to that topic. For me SR has been a useful adjunct to AlAnon meetings and regular therapy. I continue to learn so much from everyone on here.
Glad you are reaching out! Keep seeking and accepting help.
Peace,
B.