Well he's not asking for much. Just for you to stop everything you have been doing to improve the lives of you and your children, demolish your boundaries and focus back on him.
After all he has spoken to someone about maybe doing something.
I'm glad you are sticking by your decision/boundaries Reneevc, you seem to have a good handle on this.
Don't know if you've had a chance to look around SR but you might find the threads in the Friends and Family of alcoholics section helpful as well:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/