There were two phases for me - one stop drinking and two - be happy: build a sober life I love.
I find when I'm being intolerant judgmental contemptuous of others or impatient it's usually due to something in me.
I don't want to be any of those things so I started service work - helping others. I'm not saying thats the answer for everyone but for me it helps to get the correct perspective on the things that tick me off.
What would your sober life be like if you could have everything you wanted to be happy Callas?
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