Sooo coming from someone whose family *really* struggled with boundaries, I have to smile at those of you who easily say butt out. But, I agree - telling people it's not their business and keeping to it would be my approach.
I do remember your story about that particular guy- and you listened to your gut and ended it.
It might sound weird coming from someone who started dating her now husband at 4.5 mo sober - but slower is always better for those of us in recovery/coming from an alcoholic relationship. Footnote- he and I dated in high school and are both in recovery, and built a life based on that.