So lately my family and friends have been bringing up dating to me. Most feel like it is time that I “get a boyfriend.” They say that I’m too picky and that I should just go on dates to see what is out there. I have dated since my divorce. I was dating a guy. I really liked him a lot. Things were well at first then I started seeing red flags. Long story short he had been sleeping with numerous women while we were dating. I broke it off and haven’t talked to him since. I was sad and hurt by his actions.

Anyways, I feel like I’m finally in a good place where I don’t feel the need to search for a mate. If someone comes along then I wouldn’t be opposed to dating but as of right now it’s just not my interest to be dating.

I was visiting my grandma this afternoon. She brought up that I still have feelings for my AXH. She believes that I would still want to be with him. According to her that if I didn’t have feelings for him I wouldn’t care about what he is doing. She knows about all the issues regarding alcohol and him showing up to my house. I quickly responded with that I don’t have feelings for him and that I only care about what he is doing when my kids are around. I honestly feel offended but I didn’t want to be rude. I hate that people assume just because I’m single that I’m not over my X or that I’m not happy. I can honestly say for the first time in a long time I’m completely happy and thankful with my life. I would never go back to my old life that I had with my X husband and I’m not willing to settle with just anybody.