Originally Posted by
qtpi 
Has anyone else found that a lot of men- I am beginning to think- like 95% - are just hoping to have a hookup- a sexual encounter within a few minutes of meeting? Hence my dozens of first dates- always at a coffee shop for an hour- but maybe I just don't get it yet. Are there any men out there who want more than sex with whomever?
Yup. But there is a process of separating wheat from chaff. One needs to be careful how one writes a profile. Write that you're 'not looking for anything serious' and those looking for sex will answer. I did find someone on one of the dating sites, but yes there were a lot of first dates over coffee. Sometimes the coffee didn't get cold.