Yes, it was really traumatic for them (and I don't use the term "really traumatic" lightly). Especially my oldest, was VERY upset about seeing his dad that way. All day they just kept telling me about it.
What is wrong with me that I originally thought "well I think this means no more overnights" instead of "no more unsupervised visits!!!!" I'll give myself credit for coming this far, but gosh sometimes I am my own worst enemy - my secondguessing and downplaying. UGH!!! Right!! No freaking way is he taking them again. I need to stop trying to see him as my friend - he is not my friend and he is not being a good dad no matter how much he says he loves the boys!!!
This is going to break the boys' hearts. They love their dad so much.