Originally Posted by
Gottalife 
Where are your drawing your lessons from? There are two main sources IME, the pain of repeating mistakes, and the wisdom and experience of those who went before. My ego kept me on the pain path far too long, but eventually I was beaten into a state of reasonableness, was willing to learn from others, and apply the lessons learnt.
I took a lot of what was posted here and devised a plan for sobriety first. Now I am working with an old friend of mine, not a drinker, who has taught me the value of replacing alcohol and all my pain that goes with it, with the power of God and prayer. It's gonna take time. Ya can't fix in 10 days what you took 50 years to break.