Today's update: it struck me that ex's life has just stopped, while other people's lives go on. I know this sounds kind of obvious, but I hadn't really thought about how death freezes people in time. In a few years, I will be older than he ever got to be. Kid got her report card today; she will continue to get report cards and he will never see them. He'll never know where Kid goes for college or what she decides to do with her life. He's in the past forever and everything that will ever happen to him has already happened, while Kid and I and everyone else who is still alive is moving into the future, which holds surprises (good and bad) for us.