jjwinters…..I think that seeing a person that we are supposed to have an exclusive relationship with....behaving in a sexually provocative way...for any reason...cuts very deep---I consider that to be human nature....
Also, I think that the fundamental basis of all healthy relationships is trust and respect....whether it be a friendship, parent--child relationship, or any close relationship.....
If you don't have those basic elements...all the rest is more form than substance.....
I realize that you are, for sure, experiencing one of the most painful of human emotions....the breaking of couple bonding....it really is grotesquely painful....
I hope that you will be fearless enough to endure the necessary short-term pain in favor of the long-term gain.....
time and distance will help you get there....