yeah it's basically pointless if it's not in the decree, I agree. But at least SOMETHING will be in there.
It's all him managing his ego. He doens't want anything written down because then someone might read it and judge him. When I even brought it up (and it was honestly awkward for me to do) he started going in on me about having a glass of wine at a restaurant then driving home with my son. He knows I don't endanger our son, he just wants to try to even the playing field as much as possible.