Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
recovery LOOKS like recovery. if it ever happens, you will KNOW, not guess, not hope. because he will commit to a new way of life and change people places and things in his life, eliminate that stinking thinking, change his viewpoint of his place in life and strive to be the best human he can be. he will show an energy and enthusiasm towards life, he will treat you with respect, his children will be his everything. and he'll crawl across hot coals naked to be with them.
Wise words always. We can't make them be that way, and words are just words when they tell us how they are. Actions speak volumes and until you see what recovery looks like, it is wise to keep yourself and your children at a safe distance.
Hugs