Originally Posted by
Leelee168 
Milano,
It's easier for them to force their reality on you--and you change, than to accept responsibility for their own actions and behaviors. They don't want to change but want you to change for them. Ugh.
The insanity you experience because someone else's mind, that is incapable of rational thought and yet still trying to tell you what to think, is exhausting. Have as little contact with him as possible and don't engage; walk away. It's easier to give him the ass than exhaust yourself with his deranged thinking.
And for the record, I do kind of like "blow it out yer arse."
Ye yesterday I thought I'd nailed it.. Texted him precisely what he needed to do for picking up daughter (she was home sick). Right down to her meds. When he came to pick her up he'd taken our son out of the car.. Then asked me to help him get him back in his car seat.. Then wanted a quiet word about sons recent tantrums in school. Our son has been acting up since day one of the separation. To the point he was hurting his sister. I suggested a play therapist, councillor to help him through his feelings and ex said no. (thought he was sober back then and thinking rationally). Lawyer said I can't make guardianship issues like that without his consent. Gonna go back to lawyer and demand that I make a call on what my son needs since his father his mentally unwell and actively drinking. The lunatics are running the feckin asylum.
Thankfully I'm getting councilling from an addict specialist. I'm going to see a play therapist/ child psychologist.. And there's not a damn thing he can do about it.