Milano,
It's easier for them to force their reality on you--and you change, than to accept responsibility for their own actions and behaviors. They don't want to change but want you to change for them. Ugh.
The insanity you experience because someone else's mind, that is incapable of rational thought and yet still trying to tell you what to think, is exhausting. Have as little contact with him as possible and don't engage; walk away. It's easier to give him the ass than exhaust yourself with his deranged thinking.
And for the record, I do kind of like "blow it out yer arse."