Originally Posted by
hummingbird358 
As for him always telling me that he has no money ....Like..why doesn't he look at his arms filled with tattoos and figure out how much that cost!
Why would he? In his life I'm guessing he has always relied on you and your Husband to top up funds?
That becomes a way of life. He's not you. I'm guessing if you borrowed 20 dollars from a family member because you forgot your wallet you would be dashing home to get it right away and get them their money.
That's not him.
He spends his money on what he wants then flies by the seat of his pants to top up his cash flow, whether that's you or other people or gambling or whatever his thing is.
That's a way of life, a mindset, not a one off thing.
The only way to help him with this is to stop giving him the money. That is the actual solution.