What is shaming?
So we are told not to shame the alcoholic...
Is telling them that we owe $4500 in deductibles from the IOP's he attended shaming? If he quit or followed through we would have owed it either way. The quitting part really upsets me. Did complete a 28 day rehab but never completes the IOP's then relapses.. repeat.
He asked for help last weekend for travel expenses to see a concert. I just ignored the text. Now I feel I should have said "We don't have any extra money.. still paying on the $4500 deductible from the IOP's".
Is that shaming?