This is my number 1 reason for staying sober. When Im sober Im really well behaved ..a bit of a lady I suppose. That means I was horrified at conversations like that. They traumatised me soooooooooooo much. Nobody and I mean nobody is going to say that to me again. Now its just a matter of recovering from the times they did say it cos I have a head full of horrible and painful memories. Blackouts are a form of hell. Im100% convinced of it.