In the end, my hand was forced. About a fortnight after that post he came home drink and aggressive. Cops were called, they issued a safety order. We separated. He went to AA, not sure if he actually quit drinking completely. He ended up doing a line with his new hse mate and started drinking again. He wanted to get back with me recently (his pseudo relationship wasnt working out) but I said not til he sobers up...so he went back to her. Its soul destroying. I still see him for kids handovers but I'm just detaching completely. Like everybody else on here, I want my husband back, sober, healthy, happy!