I've grown distant from some family and I have to address my resentment when they're in town and it's simply expected that I come see them. Like I owe it to them to burn personal and vacation days from work on the chance that we might have a conversation. But I also don't want to upset my parents so in a way it's the honorable thing to do if they're not asking too much. My opinion: I don't think it's abnormal. Maybe indicates a deeper issue. But maybe that's just how you feel.