Wombaticus…..I. personally, have very strong feelings on this kind of behavior....withholding compassion, concern and comfort in the wake of another's grief and pain....
I consider it a very passive-aggressive act of hostility or aggression. It may be "invisible" , due to it's very passive nature...but, it cuts like a sword.
I divorced my first husband for that very reason...even with three small children....
I knew that this kind of behavior would suck all of the spirit from my bones and destroy my children if I didn't remove it from our home....
I have never regretted that decision...and, my adult kids say that they are so glad that I made that decision, for all of our welfare....