Yes so true! I spent a lot of time googling AH's behaviors, using checklists, and quizzes, etc, to try to diagnose him.... Just another way to try to control the situation, I guess... If I could put a name and a diagnosis to why he does what he does then maybe I could fix it!
But no... just a waste of my time...
Your post also made me think of this: my boys recently have started using the "peace sign" directed at each other...
Ahh, how cute, I thought.... Until they told me that it was their secret code for "shut up".... Ugh, kids