Originally Posted by Dee74

I'm glad you found us alisha - welcome
Negative self talk was a problem for me too - these ideas helped me

Challenging negative thinking ReachOut.com Australia
Negative Self-Talk: 9 Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic
Challenging Negative Self-Talk Psych Central
Positive thinking: Reduce stress by eliminating negative self-talk - Mayo Clinic

Change Your Inner Talk From Negative To Positive

I found it useful to imagine what I'd say to a friend who thought this way, or what I'd say as an adult to the inner child who started to think this way so many years ago.

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