I'm glad you found us alisha - welcome
Negative self talk was a problem for me too - these ideas helped me
Challenging negative thinking | ReachOut.com Australia Negative Self-Talk: 9 Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic Challenging Negative Self-Talk | Psych Central Positive thinking: Reduce stress by eliminating negative self-talk - Mayo Clinic Change Your Inner Talk From Negative To Positive
I found it useful to imagine what I'd say to a friend who thought this way, or what I'd say as an adult to the inner child who started to think this way so many years ago.
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