Originally Posted by
Lunchbox1 
Medium chill, gray rock, detachment...I know about all of them. How can you do any of them when there’s kids involved and he creates fights involving or revolving around them and their behavior? You can’t just walk away.
No you can't. That is indeed a no -win situation. No way to control it, no way around it. He has you exactly where he wants you. It's a bully's paradise.
As for the trip, I still don't get it. Why would he look bad to your family if he doesn't go? I mean I wouldn't even be concerned about it, personally, but I don't imagine your family is that enamoured with him either?