i can look at them now and literally not feel a THING-it's also handy for when the "oh aye yeah" doubters stroll along-nothing shuts them up faster and convinces them.
I get your point though, I suppose my way of dealing with sobriety is to be able to look them cans and think "you've caused me nothing but heartache-so ANY chance of you coming back into my life is ZERO."
Much like I did with the ex.