I spent 3 days this week in a family program where my adult
son is in rehab. The main focus, besides intro and into alanon
and education about the family disease of alcoholism was
communication. Healthy communication in a home with active
alcoholism is pretty much irradicated. Learning healthy ways
for your son to communicate his feelings would be like putting
an oxygen mask on him on a turbulent plane that is losing
cabin pressure. . You would all benefit immensely from family therapy with someone trained in addiction. The sooner the better.