I have massive anxiety just reading about this guy. My ex GF used to open any door I shut, all the time. She'd wake me up rudely from a deep sleep at 2AM just because she couldn't sleep due to her alcoholism & massive insecurities/control issues. I moved out & live in a tiny bedroom now... but it's MINE (& thank god she doesn't know how or where to find me!) Everyone is correct... completely unacceptable. Don't allow him to control your new life for one more second. That's YOUR home. Guard it well, same with your son, same with your heart. You deserve peace & safety.