Hi contnman
whenever I get overwhelmed with fear I try and tease out things that have happened from things I fear might happen.
the former is always much smaller than the latter
Of course the best solution is to fix the problem but that's not always possible - sometimes its not entirely in our hands- like the injured guy/ the courts/your gf's reluctance to use chemicals .
sometimes we have to let go and let God as they say in AA.
Not easy for scared mistrustful alcoholics who prefer to be in control like a lot of us are
here are some things that helped me
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/let-go-o...-in-your-head/ https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...g-rabbits.html (Fear - Lessons Learned from Running Rabbits)