Originally Posted by
trailmix 
On the other hand, many people (alcoholics included) are nicer when drunk! It works both ways.
Regardless, they are both, the good, the bad, the sober-ish the drunk, one and the same person. There is no use separating them?
Yeah, there's no use in playing little mind games with oursleves about who someone "really is." My XABF poured affection and attention all over me when lit, then would descend into anxiety and silence when hungover, then be nose-to-the-grindstone for a workday of sobriety, then back to school boy love gushing after a few drinks. ALL of it is who he "really is." There's no point at all in trying to ferret out who someone really is, they're the entire kit 'n caboodle because
all of them is who we have to deal with.