Originally Posted by Sasha1972

You can't fool everybody all the time - and it sounds like your wife is encountering people who are not fooled. I think most competent professionals in corrections or the "helping fields" have dealt with "clients" who are manipulative and attention-seeking - there are patterns and these people become predictable over time. It's just a matter of finding the competent professionals (as opposed to the ones who aren't).

I am a bit concerned however that you're in contact with her therapist - not matter how whacked-out your wife may be, that's her confidential relationship and not something that involves you, unless it's explicitly couples counselling. Unless someone is in immediate danger, there's no need for you to speak to the therapist.