Can't change someone's perception
AH went out last night with friends. i have been confiding in one after he contacted me concerned about the change in AH, and i got a text from him this morning.
Friend says according to AH, everything in his life is great, apart from his marriage- relationship with kids good, work good, doesn't drink too much.
i cant change his perception, but i am feeling so incredibly angry. Blame has been squarely put at my feet over many years - he says i am depressed, have mental health issues, menopause (!!@#$!!!!!), having a swim session with friends every sunday am (i dont go now), working extra hours, taking up study.
I may have been filling a void with study, but i currently love it and am not giving it up, and i am really careful to study when its not likely to impact others..
I can't change his perception- it's his, not mine.
But by crikey it hurts so much. Being dragged back in to the self-blame cycle is incredibly hard to fswim against some days. Im clawing at the edges with my fingernails.
Last edited by Wombaticus; 05-05-2019 at 05:32 PM.
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