Ah Beachn, I'm speechless. It just keeps going for you. This situation has so many layers. You do sound like you have a way decent learning curve. It is not fun but you are figuring it out.
You have probably heard, "More will be revealed." And it really has been that way for you in this last week specially about your mother-in-law. She does give me pause but sounds like you are turning your focus to yourself and your kids. Way way good for you. This is exactly what you need to do.
Also so glad to hear that at least two professionals got it: the therapist and the probation officer. Although pretty scary to hear that your wife is so successfully manipulative.
Yeah you might be a fool but the biggest? On this forum there is quite a bit of competition for that prize!!! I include myself in that group.
