Originally Posted by
Sleepyhollo 
You have very little invested, you don’t live together, have no kids etc. Unless he truly seeks recovery he won’t stay clean more than likely and he found someone else because they don’t know him. As far as you thinking you know the real him....you don’t. You know the alcoholic him and you that he is an alcoholic. But that is where it stops. You have no idea what he would be like if he truly quit drinking. Overall my ex is a good person and kind, he just isn’t for me anymore. He is not the person I fell in love with.
Thanks for this. I will keep reading that over and over again. It really does help to think that it's only my imagination that makes him look so perfect. You are right, I do only know the alcoholic him and that he is an alcoholic and as such it's like he isn't even his own person.. I sometimes feel that the more I talk to him the more I see it.